I have a story.

I have this friend of mine in school, whom I shall name as Yowanda (don’t ask me why I picked this name but I did, because every other name that came to my head was too close to a real person). This was years ago, and what happened was she got into a relationship with a guy, Jerry. They were doing very well and were still together even after she had gone on down to Australia to study, right after school. He was in Australis with her for a while then he came back to Malaysia because of work commitments.

After some time being in Australia, Yowanda, started to feel a bit lonely. I don’t exactly know what transpired during the period they were apart, but she started to sway a little. There was a guy in her class… a senior i think, we’ll call him Matt. Matt was apparently there for her a lot when she was feeling down and lonely in a foreign country. She had study periods with him and even allowed herself to get close to him. Later in the year, she came home, but she still acted like everything was cool with her and Jerry, even though she confessed to us, she has a mind to break it off because of this new guy.

Basically she started developing a crush on this new guy, since she was away from Jerry.

Her reasoning was, I was just very lonely, I needed someone, he was there for me. I had someone to talk to, to keep me company. He understood me.

See this is something I shall never get. When you are with somebody, a real relationship that has gone on for a good year or more, why do some people think that it’s only meant to be a fling? That it’s not meant to be anything serious? When you are in a relationship, sure they will be tough times and some lonely moments where both side may no get the other, but don’t you still love one another?

I don’t get it. The best part is when others asked Yowanda, why does she still stick with Jerry, she also says that she loves him. What?????? You can actually utter out by saying, “I love Him, therefore I’m sticking with him”, when all the while you are breaking another persons heart? Why not then end the misery and go find yourself with the other guy. Don’t go hanging on to both as if there’s  backup. There is no backup in relationships!!

How some people could ever say to their partner “I Love You” then turn around and do the exact opposite, by starting to crush on another person. For males and females alike, when you are in a relationship, don’t you ever dare say those three words “I Love You” if you are willing to cheat on your partner. I don’t believe it’s in the spur of the moment, I don’t believe that the “I Love You’s” can be turned on and off. It’s an ongoing process and that’s what makes a relationship with another so special.

Say your “I love You” properly. Don’t force it. Don’t cheat it.