Comments on: Being Blunt http://www.linoralow.com/2008/blog-it/being-blunt An Actress Who Blogs about Design Mon, 13 Feb 2012 20:11:15 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: betainvites.com http://www.linoralow.com/2008/blog-it/being-blunt/comment-page-1#comment-53683 betainvites.com Fri, 18 Nov 2011 10:30:20 +0000 http://aronil.com/?p=1178#comment-53683 <strong>Beta invites...</strong> [..] free beta invites for all of your favorite communities, programs, games etc. [..]... Beta invites…

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]]> By: dreamerinreality http://www.linoralow.com/2008/blog-it/being-blunt/comment-page-1#comment-6652 dreamerinreality Sun, 20 Jul 2008 07:25:50 +0000 http://aronil.com/?p=1178#comment-6652 it's based on the situation. if you tell a lie to comfort the person, it might actually hurt them even more, like, let them being over confident. im those who are blunt. the truth hurts, but it helps. it's based on the situation. if you tell a lie to comfort the person, it might actually hurt them even more, like, let them being over confident. im those who are blunt. the truth hurts, but it helps.

]]> By: speakindoodles http://www.linoralow.com/2008/blog-it/being-blunt/comment-page-1#comment-6076 speakindoodles Tue, 15 Jul 2008 21:37:45 +0000 http://aronil.com/?p=1178#comment-6076 I'd be blunt, but not to sensitive people. In fact, I rather have people be blunt with me so I get to be in touch with reality. No more being stuck in la-la land! I'd be blunt, but not to sensitive people. In fact, I rather have people be blunt with me so I get to be in touch with reality. No more being stuck in la-la land!

]]> By: The Great Swifty http://www.linoralow.com/2008/blog-it/being-blunt/comment-page-1#comment-6075 The Great Swifty Tue, 15 Jul 2008 02:49:33 +0000 http://aronil.com/?p=1178#comment-6075 It's quite a different experience for me. Considering that my harshest critics had often been my family and friends. Heck, when I first showed my CHICKEN RICE MYSTERY to my parents, responses were so lukewarm that I wondered whether I really misjudged the film and had created an abomination. (Of course, mom wasn't too happy with the tale cos of the whole 'mom couldn't cook thing' in the story wasn't... entirely fictional ;) ) In fact, because most ppl I showed the film to at first were ppl I knew so well and were so relentless in their criticisms that it was a little worrying for me. (It's not that I don't have faith in my works, in fact, it's always the contrary. Just that I'm often self-critical because, ah, I'm anal and I'm a perfectionist, to think that I've created something mediocre would've been too much for my ego to handle) Winning the BMW Shorties awards was genuinely a surprise, and not one of those acted "omfg! I won, oh geee, i'm so surprised, wow, *sob like Halle Berry* I wanna thank my friends and family" moments you often see in awards show. Maybe it's better to surround yourself with your harshest critics. Anyway, not really a daily visitor of yours (although we really seem to have numerous mutual friends: Grace, Eunice, Nicole etc.) But was suddenly prompted to visit you after stumbling upon Fikri's short film just now. :D (the one with the sad girl and Edgar) It's quite a different experience for me. Considering that my harshest critics had often been my family and friends. Heck, when I first showed my CHICKEN RICE MYSTERY to my parents, responses were so lukewarm that I wondered whether I really misjudged the film and had created an abomination. (Of course, mom wasn't too happy with the tale cos of the whole 'mom couldn't cook thing' in the story wasn't… entirely fictional ;) ) In fact, because most ppl I showed the film to at first were ppl I knew so well and were so relentless in their criticisms that it was a little worrying for me. (It's not that I don't have faith in my works, in fact, it's always the contrary. Just that I'm often self-critical because, ah, I'm anal and I'm a perfectionist, to think that I've created something mediocre would've been too much for my ego to handle) Winning the BMW Shorties awards was genuinely a surprise, and not one of those acted "omfg! I won, oh geee, i'm so surprised, wow, *sob like Halle Berry* I wanna thank my friends and family" moments you often see in awards show. Maybe it's better to surround yourself with your harshest critics. Anyway, not really a daily visitor of yours (although we really seem to have numerous mutual friends: Grace, Eunice, Nicole etc.) But was suddenly prompted to visit you after stumbling upon Fikri's short film just now. :D (the one with the sad girl and Edgar)

]]> By: The Great Swifty http://www.linoralow.com/2008/blog-it/being-blunt/comment-page-1#comment-6074 The Great Swifty Tue, 15 Jul 2008 02:37:17 +0000 http://aronil.com/?p=1178#comment-6074 (Crap, I didn't know that after pressing SUBMIT COMMENT, I still need to press POST REPLY to have my comment displayed. God, now I have to rewrite this really long comment I thought I have submitted just now) Yeah, often when I've watched something lackluster from a filmmaker, during a public screening or a film festival, I often hear his supportive family/ friends/ entourage praising him. There are times when I wondered whether they are being truthful or not. I guess being so close to the creator, it's really hard to take a neutral stance or maintain an objective perspective over the particular creation. Yet by praising him so blindly might not do him any favour because he'll end up really believing he's THAT good. As much as I wanted to be THAT guy who's being honest, giving constructive criticism and being tactful are different things. Criticizing his film in his face at a public event, in front of everyone's face, will make me look like an asshole. So if I have to be honest, same like you, I only do it with 1) filmmakers I know well 2) they really asked me to be frank and pull no punches. I remember watching a film at a film fest in Chile last year and struggled for a response when asked about my opinion. I didn't like the film (I thought it was, technically, ah, not a good film), but the first-time filmmaker was nice and obviously passionate about his project, his family was there too (and they were really nice to me as well!), so the our exchange ended up like this: Him: what do you think of my film? Me: Er, ah, the acting was really intense. The part where they screamed at each other in the end. Whoa. And the slap seemed so real! Him: It IS real! And the conversation veered towards the slap, and his cast members' method acting. But normally, it's common knowledge that when you ask for an opinion about your film (especially in a film festival), and their reply focuses not on the film as a whole, but on other aspects ("the actress is so beautiful" "the music is nice" "the editing is good" "the cinematography is eye-candy" "i like the concept/idea/premise"), you know that person didn't like your film. ;) I tried to be more honest and even more tactful when I met a British filmmaker in Hong Kong (who just made his first film in HK). He gave me a DVD screener which I watched few weeks later (after I moved to Tokyo). The film was... ahem, problematic. I decided to be honest since he did ask me to write to him. Unfortunately, my painstakingly-written critique (I was still being nice, saying things like "I can see this is a passion project, it feels very personal blah blah... BUT... ) was never replied to. I never heard from him again. (Crap, I didn't know that after pressing SUBMIT COMMENT, I still need to press POST REPLY to have my comment displayed. God, now I have to rewrite this really long comment I thought I have submitted just now) Yeah, often when I've watched something lackluster from a filmmaker, during a public screening or a film festival, I often hear his supportive family/ friends/ entourage praising him. There are times when I wondered whether they are being truthful or not. I guess being so close to the creator, it's really hard to take a neutral stance or maintain an objective perspective over the particular creation. Yet by praising him so blindly might not do him any favour because he'll end up really believing he's THAT good. As much as I wanted to be THAT guy who's being honest, giving constructive criticism and being tactful are different things. Criticizing his film in his face at a public event, in front of everyone's face, will make me look like an asshole. So if I have to be honest, same like you, I only do it with 1) filmmakers I know well 2) they really asked me to be frank and pull no punches. I remember watching a film at a film fest in Chile last year and struggled for a response when asked about my opinion. I didn't like the film (I thought it was, technically, ah, not a good film), but the first-time filmmaker was nice and obviously passionate about his project, his family was there too (and they were really nice to me as well!), so the our exchange ended up like this: Him: what do you think of my film? Me: Er, ah, the acting was really intense. The part where they screamed at each other in the end. Whoa. And the slap seemed so real! Him: It IS real! And the conversation veered towards the slap, and his cast members' method acting. But normally, it's common knowledge that when you ask for an opinion about your film (especially in a film festival), and their reply focuses not on the film as a whole, but on other aspects ("the actress is so beautiful" "the music is nice" "the editing is good" "the cinematography is eye-candy" "i like the concept/idea/premise"), you know that person didn't like your film. ;) I tried to be more honest and even more tactful when I met a British filmmaker in Hong Kong (who just made his first film in HK). He gave me a DVD screener which I watched few weeks later (after I moved to Tokyo). The film was… ahem, problematic. I decided to be honest since he did ask me to write to him. Unfortunately, my painstakingly-written critique (I was still being nice, saying things like "I can see this is a passion project, it feels very personal blah blah… BUT… ) was never replied to. I never heard from him again.

]]> By: aronil http://www.linoralow.com/2008/blog-it/being-blunt/comment-page-1#comment-6071 aronil Tue, 15 Jul 2008 02:37:12 +0000 http://aronil.com/?p=1178#comment-6071 That was a very well done comment, sorry that you had to wonder whether it actually managed to get sent to me or not. I feel your dilemma when it comes to giving of constructive criticism especially to me people who have been nice to you. Even i myself wouldn't know if i would be stepping on the wrong shoes if i mentioned a negative comment even though it is suppose to be constructive. Not everyone can take it well, we have to be able to sorta discern for ourselves whether what we are about to say can be accepted and not give the other person a nasty taste in their mouth. A further complication is that we of course don't want to give a bad impression. Sorry to hear that the British filmmaker never got back to you. Either he didn't actually like the comments or maybe he just got to buys. One can never tell. I remember I performed something for a stage show at KLpac and there was one person out of the entire audience that gave me constructive feedback. The good part though was that i wanted to learn how to improve and his feedback was much appreciated. I think we shouldn't be afraid to voice out something that really is reality sometimes. This is in reference to when people want an honest opinion about a piece of work. :) That was a very well done comment, sorry that you had to wonder whether it actually managed to get sent to me or not. I feel your dilemma when it comes to giving of constructive criticism especially to me people who have been nice to you. Even i myself wouldn't know if i would be stepping on the wrong shoes if i mentioned a negative comment even though it is suppose to be constructive. Not everyone can take it well, we have to be able to sorta discern for ourselves whether what we are about to say can be accepted and not give the other person a nasty taste in their mouth. A further complication is that we of course don't want to give a bad impression. Sorry to hear that the British filmmaker never got back to you. Either he didn't actually like the comments or maybe he just got to buys. One can never tell. I remember I performed something for a stage show at KLpac and there was one person out of the entire audience that gave me constructive feedback. The good part though was that i wanted to learn how to improve and his feedback was much appreciated. I think we shouldn't be afraid to voice out something that really is reality sometimes. This is in reference to when people want an honest opinion about a piece of work. :)

]]> By: Swifty http://www.linoralow.com/2008/blog-it/being-blunt/comment-page-1#comment-6073 Swifty Tue, 15 Jul 2008 02:26:28 +0000 http://aronil.com/?p=1178#comment-6073 testing testing

]]> By: Swifty http://www.linoralow.com/2008/blog-it/being-blunt/comment-page-1#comment-6072 Swifty Tue, 15 Jul 2008 02:22:08 +0000 http://aronil.com/?p=1178#comment-6072 Yeah, often when I've watched something lackluster from a filmmaker, during a public screening or a film festival, I often hear his supportive family/ friends/ entourage praising him. There are times when I wondered whether they are being truthful or not. I guess being so close to the creator, it's really hard to take a neutral stance or maintain an objective perspective over the particular creation. Yet by praising him so blindly might not do him any favour because he'll end up really believing he's that damned good. Normally I wanted to be THAT guy who points out the flaws of the film. But of course, being tactful and giving constructive criticism are different things. Dissing his film in his face at a public event would've made me look like an asshole. Thus I end up only giving my frank thoughts if 1) I know the filmmaker well enough 2) he really wanted me to be frank and pull no punches I remember when I watched something at the film fest in Chile last year and when asked about my opinion, I struggled for an answer. It wasn't a film I liked (and in my opinion, not really a good film), but the filmmaker was a really nice guy, and he had his entire family with him then (who were really nice to me too), and the conversation ended up like this: Him: What do you think of the film? Me: Ah. The acting is really intense. Especially the part where they screamed at each other in the end. And, man, the slap seemed so real! Him: It IS real! And the conversation veers off to the slap, and the actors' method acting. Of course, I heard that it's common knowledge that when you ask someone at a film fest what they think of your film, and instead of commenting on the film as a whole, they focus on one aspect ("the gal's acting was good", "the music was awesome", "nice editing", "oh, i think the idea's nice"), there's a 90% they didn't like your film. I maintained even more tact when I met this first-time British filmmaker in Hong Kong this year (who made a film at the country and even had some familiar actors in it). He gave me a DVD screener, told me to write to him and tell me what I thought. I said sure. And watched it possibly a few weeks later (after I moved to Tokyo). Unfortunately, the painstakingly-written critique I wrote of his film (I was still really nice, going with "yes, I can see that this is a very personal project blah blah BUT...") that I emailed to him was never replied to. I never heard from him again. Yeah, often when I've watched something lackluster from a filmmaker, during a public screening or a film festival, I often hear his supportive family/ friends/ entourage praising him. There are times when I wondered whether they are being truthful or not. I guess being so close to the creator, it's really hard to take a neutral stance or maintain an objective perspective over the particular creation. Yet by praising him so blindly might not do him any favour because he'll end up really believing he's that damned good. Normally I wanted to be THAT guy who points out the flaws of the film. But of course, being tactful and giving constructive criticism are different things. Dissing his film in his face at a public event would've made me look like an asshole. Thus I end up only giving my frank thoughts if 1) I know the filmmaker well enough 2) he really wanted me to be frank and pull no punches I remember when I watched something at the film fest in Chile last year and when asked about my opinion, I struggled for an answer. It wasn't a film I liked (and in my opinion, not really a good film), but the filmmaker was a really nice guy, and he had his entire family with him then (who were really nice to me too), and the conversation ended up like this: Him: What do you think of the film? Me: Ah. The acting is really intense. Especially the part where they screamed at each other in the end. And, man, the slap seemed so real! Him: It IS real! And the conversation veers off to the slap, and the actors' method acting. Of course, I heard that it's common knowledge that when you ask someone at a film fest what they think of your film, and instead of commenting on the film as a whole, they focus on one aspect ("the gal's acting was good", "the music was awesome", "nice editing", "oh, i think the idea's nice"), there's a 90% they didn't like your film. I maintained even more tact when I met this first-time British filmmaker in Hong Kong this year (who made a film at the country and even had some familiar actors in it). He gave me a DVD screener, told me to write to him and tell me what I thought. I said sure. And watched it possibly a few weeks later (after I moved to Tokyo). Unfortunately, the painstakingly-written critique I wrote of his film (I was still really nice, going with "yes, I can see that this is a very personal project blah blah BUT…") that I emailed to him was never replied to. I never heard from him again.

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