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What Matters Most In Life

Linora Low — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 14:07:37 +0000

[custom_field limit="1" between=", " /]What matters most in a persons life? Is it family? Is it your career? Is it financial freedom? Is it what people think of you? Is it your idealistic dreams? What really matters most? I’ve questioned that a lot this year.. and maybe i’m still struggling with an answer. Some people i guess would think any one of those are important enough to be the thing that matters most in ones lifetime. Everyday we work hard to achieve something but what are we really trying to strive for? Is it for acceptance when we do a good job? Is it to find the ‘perfect soulmate’? Is it so we can say to ourselves oh great i’ve made this much of money this year, and this can go straight to my savings? What the heck is the point of all of that…? Materialistically it’s pointless, cause at the end of the day you can’t take anything with you when you pass on. Finding the love of your life, it’s only going to be taken away from you when you pass on. What are you really going to say at the end of the day with your life… However reading Rick Warren’s “The Purpose Driven® Life: What on Earth Am I Here For?“. I know there is more to life than all that was stated above. I don’t really know who to explain it with meager words… nor with out some people thinking that it is cheesy… Just to share a little bit. This year was a topsy turvy time. I was disappointed a lot, still am in some ways. Disappointed with my own behavior, dissapointed with the people around me. People whom you’ve known for a long while let you down. Could be a close friend, could be a relative.. doesn’t matter. Anyone can let you down. Disappointed with work. Things where you were once comfortable will be shaken. Things that you thought were fine are actually not. Your securities in work won’t be there for you… All those are variables. But there is only one person Who won’t and He kept me sane… My Mighty Father in Heaven. Everything else in life is a variable and I’m glad that He isn’t. He is for ever constant. He will never change. And that is why I realise that you should live for no one else but for the Father. He’s the only thing that is significant, to work for, to strive for, to love. For He is Love… What matters most in life… the people whom you can try to love… “Love is a choice you make and you are blessed when you love even if you don’t feel like it.” – kerrvillechurch Oh Lord, I pray that you will teach me your ways. Teach me to forgive and teach me to love. Even when i do not feel like loving. Teach me to be exactly what Love is, as it is stated in you Book of Life. Love is everything, for without Love i am nothing.

Happy Endings

Linora Low — Sat, 24 Jan 2009 07:01:42 +0000

After a few days from watching Underworld 3. The story of the movie still seems to stick with. A chord was struck, if a movie effects me or makes me think about it a lot. I suppose the reason why it has resonated within me a bit is because of the tragic love story between the two leads, Lucian and Sonja. It was very much like Romeo and Juliet if you think about it, only difference is that one of them sees the love of his life die in front of his eyes. Later when i got home I went scouting around for things on the making of the movie and I came across a fan fiction. It was how after the 6 centuries that Lucian and Sonja had been apart from the day of her murder. They were reunited again in the afterlife. You can read that short story here. Why do some of us need that resolution of the happy ending?

I just had to make one of the two of them together.

The last time a movie left me with this helpless awkward feeling was the film Atonement starring James McAvoy and Keira Knightley. I saw that two years ago, and even now that story is still embedded in my head somewhere. The story of how one couple never got to be together because of one little girl’s jealousy over her elder sister who loved the boys he had a crush on. Plot was like so “Fledgling writer Briony Tallis, as a 13-year-old, irrevocably changes the course of several lives when she accuses her older sister Cecilia’s lover, Robbie of a crime he did not commit.” Because of the false accussation Robbie was sent to the military and Cecilia became a nurse. They never saw each other again after their one night of passion. Briony never got to apologise for it either despite her regrets, for she never had the courage. Instead she wrote of how they met again… in her book. In that sense they are immortally together forever…

As the tagline of Atonement goes “You can only imagine the truth”. Maybe in the case of these tragic love stories yeah… Why is it that we feel for movies like these? My thoughts on this is because, in life already there is harsh realities. Not everything in the world will be fair. Not everything in the world can be put to right. There will be broken homes and broken lives. Granted Atonement and Underworld 3 are far from the reality of everyday life. Maybe it is because that brokenness is mirrored to some parts which are relevant to our world and that’s why there is that sense of unresolved longing. Yes I’m psychoanalysing myself.. fun… I have a theory that it is because in movies or rather Disney movies, you will always see that there is a happy ending for every story. Everyone lives happily ever after. People can argue that Disney’s ever afters are a propaganda of some sort. Think of it whatever you will. Makes you question is the phrase “Happily Ever After” just invented for you. I’ll ellaborate on this on another post.

We all need a happy ending. We all need hope. If not what is there is to live for in life. Just to see it painted as it is. That it is dark and dreary. That can’t be all there is to it.

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Which is why I’m glad there is a paradise after this life. A paradise which He paid for just so that we imperfect beings can belong to and finally can say we are home. Won’t it be wonderful when the day comes when all is gone, but I can still say hi to my family and friends. There’s more to that truth and that isn’t an imagination. It is real.

Father Dearest

Linora Low — Sun, 15 Jun 2008 20:29:30 +0000

I’ve been rather behind in a couple of things lately. And one of the these i’m behind in is the Mother’s Day and Father’s Day celebration. I missed posting on Mother’s Day, so I’m making an effort to post something on Father’s Day. I was a tad late in the wishing part too.. yes i’m terrible.. but better late then never. I went downstairs earlier on today, round 11.50pm on the 15th of June. Yeah like 10 minutes before the clock strikes midnight and Father’s Day is over. Only then I went down to give my daddy a hug and a wish Happy Father’s Day. … There were a number of poems I had found, but only this had touched me. And only this I wanted to share. I pray that while my Father strives to be the best man he can ever be to the family, I know no one is perfect. Even so, it does not mean I love him less. Hence this is why, where I cannot say the right words, I would rather say a little prayer. A prayer that will give the strength to keep going on in this world to be the best dad ever. This goes out to all the other Father’s in the world. Those who are soon to be and those who already are. The baby daughter you’ve raised up still loves you very much and we shall always be your little girl. Father’s Day PrayerLord, please bless our fathers, these men who mean so much to us, who are greatly responsible for who we are and who we are becoming. Bless them for having the courage to do what’s necessary to keep us out of trouble, for making us do the right thing, for helping us build our character, even when it makes us angry; and bless them for pushing us to do our best, even when they just want to love us. Bless our fathers for being our protectors, for leading us through stormy times to safety, for making us believe that everything will be all right and for making it so. Bless our fathers for quietly making a living to provide for those they love most, for giving us food, clothing, shelter and the other material things that really matter, for unselfishly investing time and money in us that they could have spent on themselves. Bless our fathers, Lord, for saving some energy for fun, for leading us on adventures to explore the outer reaches of ourselves, for making us laugh, for being our playmates and our friends. Bless them for being our secure foundation, our rock, for holding on tight to us…until it’s time to let us go. Lord, bless these men we look up to, our role models, our heroes, our fathers. In Jesus’ name we pray, Amen. By Joanna Fuchs

Crushing In a Relationship

Linora Low — Thu, 13 Mar 2008 18:00:42 +0000

I have a story. I have this friend of mine in school, whom I shall name as Yowanda (don’t ask me why I picked this name but I did, because every other name that came to my head was too close to a real person). This was years ago, and what happened was she got into a relationship with a guy, Jerry. They were doing very well and were still together even after she had gone on down to Australia to study, right after school. He was in Australis with her for a while then he came back to Malaysia because of work commitments. After some time being in Australia, Yowanda, started to feel a bit lonely. I don’t exactly know what transpired during the period they were apart, but she started to sway a little. There was a guy in her class… a senior i think, we’ll call him Matt. Matt was apparently there for her a lot when she was feeling down and lonely in a foreign country. She had study periods with him and even allowed herself to get close to him. Later in the year, she came home, but she still acted like everything was cool with her and Jerry, even though she confessed to us, she has a mind to break it off because of this new guy. Basically she started developing a crush on this new guy, since she was away from Jerry.

Her reasoning was, I was just very lonely, I needed someone, he was there for me. I had someone to talk to, to keep me company. He understood me.

See this is something I shall never get. When you are with somebody, a real relationship that has gone on for a good year or more, why do some people think that it’s only meant to be a fling? That it’s not meant to be anything serious? When you are in a relationship, sure they will be tough times and some lonely moments where both side may no get the other, but don’t you still love one another? I don’t get it. The best part is when others asked Yowanda, why does she still stick with Jerry, she also says that she loves him. What?????? You can actually utter out by saying, “I love Him, therefore I’m sticking with him”, when all the while you are breaking another persons heart? Why not then end the misery and go find yourself with the other guy. Don’t go hanging on to both as if there’s backup. There is no backup in relationships!! How some people could ever say to their partner “I Love You” then turn around and do the exact opposite, by starting to crush on another person. For males and females alike, when you are in a relationship, don’t you ever dare say those three words “I Love You” if you are willing to cheat on your partner. I don’t believe it’s in the spur of the moment, I don’t believe that the “I Love You’s” can be turned on and off. It’s an ongoing process and that’s what makes a relationship with another so special. Say your “I love You” properly. Don’t force it. Don’t cheat it.

A Missing Piece

Linora Low — Fri, 07 Mar 2008 19:12:14 +0000

Mister G went to China for a week and he’s coming back tomorrow So yes I’m all happy that he is coming back to me tomorrow. I’m making a mountain over this, but for the past week, I’ve felt something missing. A little piece of me was apart from me.

This is not meant to be perfect. It’s a sketch..

Sure we see each other every day. To the point where he doesn’t understand why there are certain things like me calling him and wanting to talk to him during the day, even though i know i’m going to see him anyway. I made it a point where, I would at least communicate or hear him – on my part that is – at least once a day. “Why do I do so?” a friend had asked me. ….. Simply because, I want to hear him. Is it not alright for me to want to hear the person that I love once a day? Maybe on some level you can call it clingy and obsessive much..But it makes me feel nice when I do hear him. Granted because on the occasions I call I want to be all lovey dovey and he doesn’t have the time or think there is the need to be so. I suppose the other reason is because anything can happen in life. Anything… some things happen and are gone in the blink of an eye. That said, I’d like the thought that in the days when we are with one another, they are nothing but happy ones. It’s living in the moment, and you’d rather not waste that moment. What if it were the last time we saw one another…of course you wont think it but just what if? I’m a sentimental fool. He was gone for a whole week, and because I knew i may have the tendency to be ‘clingy’, I used this time to really make sure I didn’t talk to him. Not talk to him as in, no sms and no calls to him. I know he would not call me, so i prepare for that mentally and try not to think about it. Before I would call him…It didn’t matter where he was whether he was in the same country or not. I’d call him…I needed to hear from him. I suppose it is true what they say, distance or time does make the heart grow fonder. I look at the chair next to me, he’s not there. I look towards the empty room upstairs, he’s not there. I look at the still car outside, he’s not there. I look at the clothes that are about, he’s not there. I look at the picture on the table, he’s not there. Yes, it’s only a week but I miss him. i know some people have distant relationships for a much longer period, but this has been the first after a long while that we’ve been apart. So in my own context, I miss Mister G. Least I know I can survive if I don’t hear from him. Even so… I still have a missing piece…

The Apartment

Linora Low — Sat, 16 Feb 2008 17:55:25 +0000

This is a late post. After a long drama period of the other day’s Valentine on blogs and in the physical world. The day turned out quite nicely in the end. And would you like to see what made me so wonderfully happy? No I didn’t get anything in particular but let me walk through what happened. Simplicity is always best, and we went just for dinner at “The Apartment” at the KLCC branch. It wasn’t too crowded too, so good thing – considering we went for dinner at what 9 pm plus. Anyway I love how they had done up the whole place, it was very vintage and cozy. The Apartment is actually opened up by the same people who opened the “The Laundry” at the Curve, Mutiara Damansara Before all that though see what I got for Mister G. http://picasaweb.google.com/Aronil/ValentineDay2008AtTheApartment

Deciphering the Female Talk

Linora Low — Thu, 03 Jan 2008 17:38:35 +0000

had this conversation a while back with my boy and this is was his dilemma…“I don’t understand girls! They don’t mean what they say! Make some sense, why must they say one thing and then mean an entirely different thing. Like us guys, we just go straight to the point, if we say we don’t want it that way, we don’t want it! It ain’t rocket science.” As I type this I can’t help but also laugh. For some girls, the ones with pride that is, they shall say, well why are the guys so ‘COMPLICATED’ why can’t you just try to get us and not be so straight forward. …… I know i know.. it sounds liek the girls can’t make up their mind. So i’ll break it down as much as I can… and I’m not going to say it related to most girls, but lets see how far some are true. Phrase 1 : GO AWAY! When a girl tells you to go away, there are two meanings so you have to be smart to figure out which one it is. The first one means, to FIX IT! fix whatever it is you have just done wrong. Say you said something that is not pleasing to her ears, and she tells you to GO AWAY. Fix it, say something that she would prefer to hear you say.

E.g. She: Sweetie what do you want to do later on today? He: Wow… that chikado is hot! She: ……… He: Dont’ you think so? She: GO AWAY! He: “??” Why what did I say??

Hellooo!! What do you think you said? How to fix it? Ignore what you have just said and ask her to repeat her question or statement and actually concentrate on answering the blasted question! The second thing it could mean. “GO AWAY!” Literally means GO AWAY! Phrase 2 : What Do You Think? When a girl asks for your opinion please please say something either positive or give her a really good explanation. I’ll be frank, my species tends to act a lot on our emotional side half the time. Which is why, if you want to avoid some sort of argument. Please, practice your skills in debating and learn how to give a good rebuttle. Cause us girls, will give all sorts of excuses how you are no uinderstanding, uncaring.. and all the other “uns” out there, if you say something negative. We’re fragile creatures, so hearing a nice thing would always be a plus.

E.g. She: Sweetie…do you think it’s better to have the white or blue? He: How bout neither? Both of them are not very nice She: Really??? But I already got them… He: Well who asked you to buy them? She: ……..I thought that I could look sweet, like how you want me to be…

Sigh the poor dear, have a heart dear boys and if you want your girls to look like either some super sweet girl next door or some hot looking thing like Megan Fox… which is another argument of mine altogether. Please motivate her a bit. Here’s the thing with girls, they like to dress up, no denying that, they like to look good because media and darn boyfriends tell them that they want their girls to be looking good. So……. take a guess what prescription I shall write down. BE NICE! You know what to do…. if you can’t even after that explanation and that example….. sigh I have no hope for mankind. KNock knock anyone home??

Do You Know How To Touch A Girl?

Linora Low — Thu, 20 Dec 2007 17:28:31 +0000

Today I was in the car driving up to Penang with Giden and he started an interesting if not awkward conversation topic. It was a whole guy girl topic and on relationships. Reason for this was because he doesn’t understand girls. I agree with him. I don’t get why they can’t get us at times. I mean half the time while the girl thinks of all the romantic and lovey dovey stuff.. this is what the guy will hope for.

photo taken from itickr.com Ok… I’ll be fair. Sometimes when we say something..we don’t really mean it. But rather we hope that you can learn how to read between the lines and get one simple message absolutely clear in your head. For the LAST time. Be NICE. I’m telling you, treat a girl nicely, be the sweetest, most charming and chivalrous creature on earth and you will have us hook line and sinker. This is not to say that we are easy but more so, girls like to know that they can be treated like a special object once in a while. Treat the girl like she is the most precious thing to have ever come across you. You don’t even need to buy her stuff! We may love shopping but really, we go for quality in the guy. If not what you’ll end up with is either us whacking you or some sort of temper tantrum and shelling. How? 5 simple ways, to keep your lady happy:-

Tell her every once in a while how much she means to you. A girl needs to know she means something to you. Albeit that it may sound very clingy and needy, even if she doesn’t say it, but in honest truth she needs to hear something meaningful from the one she likes / loves.
Look at her every once in a while.…and i mean LOOK. Just smile, and when she asks what. Just tell her how lovely she is. Girls have this thing where they always hope for the LOOK from their guy or guys (Refer to previous post The Look). It is extra brownie points when you actually tell her she is pretty …every alternate days… Hey she goes through a lot just to make herself pretty for YOU!
Talk sweetly with her and have a cuddling session if need be. It’ll be sweet for her to know that you like to manja her once in a while. Please also take note what kinda of Manja-ing she actually prefers. I.E. sweet talk, teasing her all the way down to hugs.
In relation to number 3, please for crying out loud take the time out to really KNOW your girl. The small things that are sentimental to her, mean something. So don’t be an oxy-moron and just fling them to one corner of your brain.
And of course most importantly…Listen to her when she says there is something important. She takes the time to listen to your needs. So I think it only fair that the other half does the same. I can assure you, do those 5 things and boys you won’t have a single problem. This would also work with those trying to hook up with a new girl. But no guarantees.

I also hope that this will clear up the confusing moments that you have with understanding what a girl wants. Conclusion: BE NICE! and she’ll be nice to you. She just needs to know she can trust you with her heart. Every girl wants her Knight in shining armor or Prince Charming, just like how you boys dream about two girls together…sheesh. So boys… Do you Know How To Touch A Girl?

Artist: Jojo Song: How to Touch a Girl.