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Being Blunt

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Last week I wrote about how it’s a been a little tough in getting the time to blog cause i was so stressed out. One of the topics i had mention in , was on whether one should be blunt or not? Sometimes you are stuck in a sticky situation with people, where you just don’t know what to do. Like for example say someone has bad BO or if someone has bad breath. Will you tell them that they have got those smelly things going on for them? Or let me give another example… You know those people who audition for So You Think You Can Dance or American Idol? They sound atrocious but they insist people have told them they are good? Why weren’t they told from the very beginning that they just can’t cut it, before having to hear it on international television by a panel of harsh judges? Or if say i went for a show, and I felt that it was bad… should i tell them after the show that is was bad? Or I shall be the supportive friend and say “Hey great job, it was really good!!” Where do you draw the line on being blunt? Different situations will cause me to react differently and even more so it depends on who I’m saying my direct statement too. I can be blunt at times and I admire the people who are really blunt, daring enough to say the truth to people even though they don’t wish to hear it. I guess that sometimes, when it comes to giving an answer at face value you don’t wish to offend the other party in the process. It’s especially hard when it comes to friends.. close friends… i’d say is a different thing altogether. With friends /acquaintances.. you are not yet at the level where it’s alright to make snide remarks or direct statements which you know they will not take to heart. Close friends, would permit you to be more direct, where as a friend I would tell you the truth of the matter. They will tell you if something is terrible because they don’t want you to feel the repercussions of the what the future could be. They will tell you if you have bad breath because hey you don’t want other people to be like going ‘ooh gosh don’t go near him… he stinks!’ They will tell you if something doesn’t seem right cause they don’t want you hurt. They will tell you when something you do is stupid because they don’t want you to be given the weird look by others. For me would I choose to be blunt? Yeah, I’d rather be. It is not because I want or intend to put people down but where I’m really truthful in terms of telling people my honest opinion, it’s cause I bother. If not why would I waste my breath, my thoughts, my saliva and my energy to even tell a person something is off. I cherish the people who will give me their honest opinions even if it is a blow to the ego, but at least I know the truth. I would rather hear something like that than here a lie.

Virtual Drama Be Gone

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I did say i was tired.. But I am more tired about this. The whole nang and dang-ing issue on Nuffnang. I personally am a fan of Nuffnang and I always will be because of the people that I have met and know through this service. However what I am not a fan of at this point anymore, is how much drama is going on the blogosphere over who flamed who and who flamed for what. (Flaming in this sense if where one blogger sort of disses another blogger or something like that). It’s just one nasty retort to another. BTW if one wants to even consider this a “flame” or “flam” or “phlegm” or “flim” or whatever to other bloggers, maybe I am. I’m just really tired. And I don’t care if people are going to be making some retort or no retort at all over this post. I really really can’t be bothered anymore. Let me explain, Nuffnang has it’s own version of “digg” in a way, and when you click on a post in the Innit system, it automatically “nang” it for the post and if you didn’t like the post you can always “dang” it – in short Digg = Nang and Dang=Bury. What’s happening here, is that we have bloggers who come up with interesting titles to their post. Maybe not all their titles will lead to interesting content and that’s fine. It happens. But what I can’t stand is how some people are so blardy immature when they see a post that is going up, they want to dang it. What’s the matter with you???What your posts isn’t going up so? You wanna dang/bury other peoples? What good does that do? Yeah sure while on one hand, it’s fun and a great read to see what “nastiness” is going on here in the virtual, but on another hand. I find it so DAMN immature! And I’m actually ticked about it, because they are going on and on about how oh something like this post is not meant to be on top like. I mean no disrespect but I’m just feel this whole flaming thing is so entirely lame! And people are making it into like a whole big fuss and thinking its what “cool”? Probably some fellow bloggers won’t agree with me on this but it’s what I think on this whole…. THING! Is this what blogging is about? To go ahead and “flame” others, rant on others to just hit back at them? I have never ever liked it when I read about one blogger blasting back at another blogger. There is already so much issues and drama going on in “real” life and now you wanna put it all here too? Come on! Enough! I’d even rather read about the humorous post on what you had for lunch or what stupid stuff you saw at work, than have to read on another raging, burning, flaming post. If you don’t like a post or a blogger for that matter. Don’t read it/ their blog and in fact don’t even comment. Does one actually think that if you were to comment something nasty there will be any satisfaction? Maybe for that moment sure. Oh and another thing. I am admitting that at one point I did look a lot at Innit, just to see if my post had gone up and sure there are times it didn’t. I accepted that and there is a very good reason that I don’t go to Innit as much anymore, because I’ve realised that its like an addiction to see stats go up. Almost like gambling. So unless I find there is a “cause” or an important message I want to share. I’ll put up something on Innit. If not… I just don’t find the joy of putting it up anymore… Forgive me on that… Cause I don’t want to be all naggy ranty about it and then asking help from others to “Nang” it.. Sigh… I’m not saying there is a right way to blog, rather I just don’t want to have too see good friends get sucked into the whole blasting thing. That’s just my opinion and I really do like the bloggers who stick to their ethics or beliefs on blogging…